My Life....My Love....How it all changed!!

They say that Love is the best of all the feelings in the world. And sure it's true. I found love when i least expected to and I must say, it surely has changed me for the better.

It is so strange that we wait for someone special all our life, but we fail to understand that the person with us right now, might be that someone, might be 'the one'. You do not miss something until it has gone out of your life. The same happened with me. This relationship has taught me a lot of things. Some of which I will be sharing with you.

We were a happy couple. There were a lot of differences, like in any other relationships, but our best asset was our compatibility. We were very comfortable and compatible with each other. But the interesting part is that we have spent more time being off the relationship, than being in the relationship. But that has nothing but increased our bond with each other. Our love story is no different from any other. Same twists, same turns, same ups and downs, he coming from a different caste, me from a different, family obligations, this...that.....and the typical opposites attract stuff. But most importantly, we shared a relationship that was unique.

When we were actually IN the relationship, we used to fight like cats and dogs, and when we were out of the relationship, we were more like a couple who’s just fallen in love. We have been through a lot in our relationship, there was a time when he was very serious, and I was not. Then came the phase when we both were not serious, which transformed into a time when we both became serious. And now, it has come up to the point, when I have become serious, and he says that he’s stopped loving me.

We have seen so much together. We have shared so much in each others company, from sharing our happiness, sorrows, love, anger, depression, easy times, tough times to sharing our lives together, we have seen it all. So how can one forget it all and go on living like the past 3 years never happened?

I sometimes sit and wonder, how can love stop, how can it cease? If such is the case, then there must not be any love from the very beginning itself. I still dont have the answers to these questions....and a lot more!!!

I have a lot of complains from HIM, and i also think that somehow the past 3 years could just erase out of my memory. But i have to live with reality and accept whatever comes in my way.

Out of the many thing that i learned from HIM and my relationship with HIM, there are a few insights:

• Never Expect: I never expected to fall in love, but I did. When you do not expect anything, life is full of surprises. And you will find yourself being disappointed quite less.

• Happiness: It is a very integral part of one’s life. All my life, i worked hard on how to make others happy, forgetting how to be happy myself. He made me happy and taught me how to live with absolute bliss.

• Positivity: I was a very pessimistic person. Never happy with what I have, and always complaining. He showed me how to be happy and satisfied with what I have and how to look at the brighter side of everything. Even today, if i am faced with a sad or difficult situation, i try to look at how it could be good for me.

• Be Fun and energetic: Life is too short if u want to live it with content. So it is better to enjoy every second of your life. This is what he used to do, and all i did was learn it from him.

• Keep Smiling: Smile never hurts, and it is one thing that is always returned with most affection. He kept smiling all day long, which persuaded me to keep smiling throughout the day. And i found out that i started to live more enthusiastically, looking forward to each day.

• Be Strong: The hardships in our relationships made me stronger and more practical. Display of emotions can be a dangerous thing, especially when one knows your weakness. I learned to be strong and faced the world with more confidence than ever before.

• Be Bold: Crying over a situation can never help. It is your life and you are the one who governs it. I learned to get hold of my life and to show everyone, what i really stand for.

• Wait: Patience was another thing that he taught me. I also strongly started believing the fact that everything happens for the best. If everything is messed up and wrong now, you can be sure God has some better plans for you. All you have to do is WAIT.

These are just some of the things that i learned from Him and my relationship. I realized he was my ‘The One’ only when he was separated from me. I cannot say i am happy now with what has become, but there surely will come a day when i will look back at all these times and laugh out loud. And i hope that day comes pretty soon.

But if you have that ONE person in your life that you love the most, do not hesitate to say that you love that person. Don’t ever let a time come when you desperately want to share your love with someone, but that person is not there with you. So take some time out of your busy schedule and tell someone that you love them. Just those 3 words can sometimes be enough to tell how you feel, can be enough to end a fight, can be enough to show care and can be enough when words fail.

But most importantly, love someone today...and you will feel a sense of happiness and belonging that you have never felt before. And if you too have faced a situation similar to mine, and have been hurt, try forgiving the person who has hurt you..... that's what i did.... and i can surely say.... i m happier now compared to when i was angry.

With these final words, i end my blog, " Love means never having to say you are sorry" - Eric Segal, Love Story.